The Antidote to Loneliness (A Quote by James Hollis)
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Living Between Worlds: Finding Personal Resilience in Changing Times, by James Hollis
1683645618The antidote to loneliness is letting go of the fantasy that the attachment to the Other is necessary to our survival. … The antidote is to know that there is no antidote to be found…and that that is okay. After all, most relationships fail because we ask too much of them. Is it not possible that more might survive if we asked less of them and more of ourselves? This is why Rilke defined a healthy relationship as a person being the guardian of the solitude of the Other. No matter how much we care or are cared for, we cannot live the other’s life or spare them difficulty, nor can they spare us. … So, it seems, solitude is an achievement, an aloneness that is not loneliness and that is not dependent on another to rescue us. … [It] is the self-care system doing its proper job.
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