Video: 6 Minutes
One of the reasons we (in our culture) can too quickly pursue divorce is that we mistakenly believe a spouse can resolve certain internal struggles for us, which in actuality can not be resolved by one’s spouse. ((I realize that there are many and complex reasons that couples divorce. My goal in this post (and video) is to speak to some common themes and dynamics in our culture. But even when these dynamics are present there very well can be additional factors at play. For example, toxic patterns such as abuse are an additional layer, that while very important (and worthwhile topics), are beyond the scope of this post and video.)) This sets up a fantasy expectation which we can end up perpetually chasing, believing that if we can just find the right person, then we will feel complete, loved, etc. Unfortunately, this dynamic often makes it harder and harder for us to see that the resolution to our pain, loneliness, etc. actually resides within ourself.
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