Having been a client myself at various points over the years (as well, of course, now being a provider of counseling services) I thought I would share some of my thoughts about selecting a counselor for oneself. The title of this post is a little misleading in that I don’t think there are any perfect counselors, nor do I think it would be good for us as people if there were. While I think we may at times long for someone who has no struggles of their own and would care for us perfectly, I think that such a person would feel so different from ourselves that it would make it hard to experience their help as being relevant. In my past experiences as a client, I have found it comforting to experience my counselors as being human, just like me in that they have imperfections and frailties, and yet having walked further down the path of growth than I yet had. In short, working with a counselor who is human like you and yet has grown in places that you have not yet grown instills hope that you too can grow in those places. A counselor who presents themselves as completely without struggles, limitations, weaknesses, etc. can in comparison feel hard to relate to since deep down we all know ourselves to be imperfect.
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March 18, 2011 (Updated Aug 18, 2013) by — Intended Audience: General
I recently came across my notes from the Ken Myers lecture from a while back on “Modern Technology in the Lives of our Children” and thought I’d share the various resources that he mentioned and as well as some of the themes he emphasized.
June 23, 2010 (Updated Mar 23, 2015) by — Intended Audience: General
The mind and body are very interconnected. You may have noticed some of the uncomfortable aspects of this when after a stressful day you find that your shoulders are tight or your stomach is churning. All of that emotional tension, stress and energy has to go somewhere, and so when we’re unable to process it sufficiently on a mental and emotional level it tends to travel into our physiology. Fortunately, this interconnectedness goes both ways: Just as our emotional state can affect our physical well-being, so too can our physical experiences influence our emotional well-being!
Redeemer Classical School (located in Keezletown, Virginia) has arranged for Ken Myers to present a lecture this coming Friday (May 14, 2010) on Growing up in a Digital Nation: Modern Technology in the Lives of our Children.
Friday, May 14, 2010, at 7:30pm
Massanutten Presbyterian Church
50 Indian Trail, Penn Laird, VA
Admission is free and all are welcome.
March 29, 2010 (Updated Jul 9, 2016) by — Intended Audience: General
One of my goals with the Transitions blog is to provide useful resources to my readers. These can be books, articles, psychological research, websites, etc., as well as, of course, my own thoughts about what can be helpful to those seeking to learn, grow and live well. I intend for all of these things to be useful and helpful (obviously, or why would I post them?), but part of utilizing any resource well is understanding what it can and cannot accomplish for you.
March 18, 2010 (Updated Mar 23, 2015) by — Intended Audience: General
As a rather severe winter fades and spring approaches it seems like a good time to write about an interesting study I came across a while back about the health benefits of living near green spaces. The perceived connection between closeness to nature and one’s health is not new, and is one which is not hard to accept on just an intuitive level. Particularly at this time of year after having had so much snow it can feel good to just see the green grass again!
February 17, 2010 (Updated Mar 23, 2015) by — Intended Audience: General
I have always been fascinated by icicles–they’re just so fantastical and otherworldly! While the snow has been pretty to watch, the frequency and quantity has meant for a lot of shoveling and rescheduling. One perk for me with all of the snow has been the increasingly enormous icicles at my office. So for a change of pace here on the Transitions blog I thought I’d write a fun post just to share a few pictures of them.
January 27, 2010 (Updated Aug 18, 2013) by — Intended Audience: General
I have a habit of taking time out in the new year (usually in January, after life gets back to normal, post-holidays) to reflect on the previous year and look ahead to the new year. In that vein I thought I’d share a list of some of the blog posts that proved to be popular with my readers in 2009.
January 13, 2010 (Updated Apr 7, 2013) by — Intended Audience: General
For many people the holidays are “The Most Wonderful Time of the Year.” The wrapping up of the year with Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve is a special season in multiple ways. In addition to the historical and religious aspects of the holidays, many people also enjoy the breaking from routine, celebrating and coming together with friends and family. Though I am very much a fan of all of these things, I think it is also worthwhile to acknowledge some of the ways in which the holidays and/or post-holidays can be stressful.
There are two informative studies in the October issue of Pediatrics that reveal: the effects that some parenting styles can have on teen driving safety, as well as the increased risk associated with teens having a vehicle of which they are the primary driver.