Advice for Newlyweds: Don’t Forget Who You Are

January 13, 2014 (Updated Jul 9, 2016) by — Intended Audience: , .

Series: Exploring Conflict in Relationships (2013 Interview)
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  2. How Can Couples Prepare for Future Conflicts?
  3. Knowing When You Need to Address an Issue
  4. Can Relationships Be Repaired (and When Is It Too Late)?
  5. Advice for Newlyweds: Don’t Forget Who You Are
Video Advice for Newlyweds Don't Forget Who You Are

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In our culture we tend to place undue pressure on the marriage relationship, filling it with expectations (conscious and unconscious) that this relationship (and our partner in particular) will meet all of our needs. This is problematic for a number of reasons, but one of the most important is how this default approach to romantic relationships inadvertently leads to a loss of self.

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When we overly focus on our relationship with our partner (and expect that relationship to address all of our emotional needs and struggles) we actually end up neglecting our self. In a sense we can end up losing some of our self (i.e., our sense of who we are, what is important to us, our identity, etc.) in the name of valuing the relationship. Relationships do take time and effort. But so does personal growth. And relationships are healthiest when both parties continue to work at growing as individuals, while walking side-by-side through life.

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